We all have them. Those negative thoughts that nag us subconsciously. Maybe yours is that you think you’re too fat, or you aren’t happy with your hair at the moment, or maybe you’re feeling dumb. Maybe you’re angry because you feel underappreciated. Maybe you’re sick and upset that nobody seems to care. The list goes on for each of us, doesn’t it? But you know what? NOT TODAY. Say, what?!?! Yes, that’s right, I said it – NOT TODAY. Today, you are going to DECIDE to be happy. Period. And yes, it really IS that simple. I didn’t say “easy” on purpose – if it was that easy, you’d have done it already. It really IS simple, though. Happiness is a mindset, and a really phenomenal one to have, frankly! I have had those gloom and doom days – we all have them. The important thing to remember is that, there is always someone out there who has it worse than you do. You are still HERE. Every day you wake up breathing oxygen is a GOOD day, because there are others that weren’t so lucky.
I said this would be simple, and I promise it will be. I’m pretty sure we could all come up with a list of ten (10) things we’re feeling negative about. For example, I woke up to a kitchen full of dishes – none of which happened to be dished I used myself, and I distinctly remember loading the dishwasher with all of the dirty dishes just the night before. I would write down how ticked I am that I have to do the dishes for the entire house, over and over and over and over and… well, you get the picture. That’s only item #1. Now your turn. Write down ten of these things that you’re unhappy with – and it can be BIG, or petty (like my dirty dishes example). Go ahead, grab a paper and pen and get to writing! I’m serious, go ahead, I will wait…
Got your 10 negative thoughts written down? Great! If you cheated, you seriously need to go back and write them down, or you won’t be able to do the next part, which is the best part of this whole exercise! Once you have your ten negative thoughts written, you’re going to go through each of them, one at a time, and cross them out. Once you cross out the first one, you’ll replace it with a positive redirection of that same thought! So for my dirty dishes example, I redirect the negative by saying how lucky I am to have two amazing young boys who are healthy and happy growing boys that need food. Frequently. But because they need to eat frequently (and in large quantities), they are thriving and healthy – how lucky of a mom am I!?? You see what I did right there? Yep, I redirected my negative thought into a positive and healthy one. If I can do it, so can you! Now, go through each of your 10 negative thoughts and do the same – you’ll be impressed at how much better you feel after going through a simple exercise like this, and how much it can improve your mood for the day!
Each day you wake up, always remember that you are ultimately in control. Do you want to be the victim of negative thoughts, or empower yourself with positive ones that make you a happier person? If you are going to be around people, this is a great way to “set the temperature” of the room by being the thermostat. This is one way to set the temperature to a warm and happy setting, and see how it spreads across the room – soon the entire room will fill with pleasantness, and the cold will be gone. Empower your happiness, because you CAN!